Finding Success and Purpose in Unexpected Places

Jim Cathcart 00:05 Welcome to a thoughtful discussion of important ideas among people who are committed to succeeding in life. This is a gathering of leaders from a variety of industries, and our role here is to help you reach the top 1% of your field of choice. I'm Jim Cathcart. So come with me and let's discover how much more successful you could be. Well, welcome, everybody, to the Professional Experts podcast. Today we've got a really fun treat. Beth Robbins, who is one of the newest certified professional experts, if not the newest, because we haven't actually presented that yet. She's with us today. She's a certified life training, life skills trainer. She's a former actress on Broadway musical theater. She's a fitness champion and a guru to others in many, many ways. And she's just a cool person to hang out with. And we get to do that right now. Beth, welcome to the show. Speaker B 01:19 Thank you so much, Jim. I'm so glad I can be here today. Jim Cathcart 01:22 Where are you located today? Speaker B 01:24 I'm in Carlsbad, California. Jim Cathcart 01:26 Oh, you're in your home base area, Carlsbad, California. I used to live in la Jolla for 20 years, and then Southern San Diego and then in Thousand Oaks, which is also Southern California, for another 17 years. So you're, you're in paradise. That's for sure. Speaker B 01:43 I am. I'm a transplant from Chicago, so this is amazing. Jim Cathcart 01:48 Yeah. Kidding. And I'm looking at you and look like a healthy person who's got nothing detracting from that at all, yet. You have played three hours of pickleball today. Speaker B 02:03 I am, I am fresh off the court. Jim Cathcart 02:05 I would, I would think you'd be kind of hanging just a little bit, Speaker B 02:09 you know, or, you know, that's the thing about pickleball. The joke is, okay, one more game. You're, like limping. You got, you're back, like, okay, just one more game over game, you know, it's grand. Greatest thing I ever discovered. It's, it's everything. It's, it's social. It's, it's, I'm very competitive, and so that it gets it out of me so I can get on with the day. And it's my fitness. And it's just. I don't know. When I moved here to California, I didn't know a single person except my Realtor, who was younger than I was. So it wasn't like we were going to hang out. And I unpacked my truck after I drove it across the country, and I, I rented a car and I went straight to the pickleball courts. I met some really fun people. And I came back the next day and the next day, and the next thing I knew, I was spending five or six hours playing pickleball. And it was great. And Covid hit, and I got pulled back into teaching fitness on Zoom. So that was great because I learned how to operate Zoom. And I burned my. I burned out, and I went back to pickleball. And I was like, how. There's this calling. There's something else I'm supposed to be doing. And it was. It was a little chirp. And then it started, like, getting louder and louder until it was a baseball bat upset in the head that this is. I need to be a life mastery consultant. At the time, I said, I need to be a life coach. Jim Cathcart 03:30 Yeah. Speaker B 03:30 And it was. It was always kind of calling. And I. I look into it, and I talk myself out of it. Oh, you don't have the education. Got to go back to school. You gotta. It's gonna cost money. Got it. And so I had all those fear paradigms going. Yeah, that imposter syndrome ELF actually, just get back. Jim Cathcart 03:48 You're not up. Yeah. Speaker B 03:51 And then finally, it was just. You know, the stars aligned. Everything was just right there. And I dove into the material, and I. It was. Just became part of my DNA. And it's like, this is what I went through alone for 10 years. I didn't. I don't know if it was ignorance or pride or what it was that. I don't need a coach. I'll just read the books. I'll go to the seminars, I'll go to the summits, and I'll figure this out. And you read a book and go, oh, I knew that. I already knew that. Well, if you knew it, you would have made a change in your life. Jim Cathcart 04:23 That's right. There's the line. I don't remember who said it. I always attribute it to Will Rogers. But the line is, if it's not affecting your actions, it's doubtful you believe it. Speaker B 04:37 Oh, I like that. Jim Cathcart 04:38 Yeah. If it's not affecting your actions, it's doubtful you believe it. That was, I think, my original quote. It's an insider's joke from the National Speakers Association. Cabot Robert, the founder of nsa, he said from the platform many times. He said, you know, it's interesting. I've known so many of you speakers. He says, I've seen material over the years. Someone will say, well, as. As Beth Robbins once said, and they'll quote you. Exactly. And then the second time they share that, they'll say, as somebody once said, and then the third time they'll say, like I've always said, now it's progressive ownership of your material. Right. He said, I don't encourage that, but that's what often happens and happening. Speaker B 05:26 Wow. Well, I probably don't remember who you heard it from, you know, so. Jim Cathcart 05:30 Yeah, well, that's the thing. You know, people say, I don't need a coach. Do you? Why? Why do you not need a coach? Well, because I read a lot of books, and I. Excuse me. You mean you go to another source other than yourself and you take someone's wisdom and you study that, kind of like sitting with a coach, but on paper it's not the same. Yeah, it is. Yeah, it is. Reading a book. This is original copy of Think and Grow Rich or. Yeah, you know, any. Going to a seminar, going to a summit, you're just getting a coach in a different medium, you know, and the happy. Speaker B 06:14 They're not holding you accountable. Jim Cathcart 06:16 Right. Speaker B 06:16 So the thing. Jim Cathcart 06:18 That's what I wanted to get to. You go ahead and say that for the. For the viewers, because I was gonna go the same direction. Speaker B 06:25 Coach sees you, the bigger picture of you as. As a spiritual being, having a human experience. And they. They give you action steps, and they. They. I mean, for me, I have. You put it in your calendar. Say, what. What action step can you take this week? And will you be willing to do that? And when will you have it done by? And now you're Tongville. And I wrote it down, too. Okay. By Thursday afternoon, you will have made that phone call or you will have signed up for the Whatever. And that's the accountability. No book, no seminar. They're going to be like, okay, bye. Thanks for coming. Jim Cathcart 07:06 Several years ago, at the top of the COVID experience, I had reevaluated my own career. I'd done 3, 500 speeches all over the world, and I'd written. Now it's 27 books. But back then, it was fewer. I was thinking, okay, should I continue to promote myself as primarily a keynote speaker and an author? No, I want to. I want to be more involved with people, but I don't want to be a coach. That's a difference. I knew coaching. I'd done lots of it, and I'd been through coaching programs with others, but that wasn't the model of what I wanted to do. So I bought some time from David Newman, who teaches people how to do online coaching and training and that sort of thing. But mostly it's online marketing of your skills and services. And David gave me some great ideas and we went through about eight weeks of training and at the end of it, I decided I'm going to be, for the balance of my career, or at least the foreseeable balance of it, a mentor to experts. Because you, you can choose a mode like coach or speaker or whatever, but you also need to choose a market, you know, like in yourself. It's, it's life, life skills, life mastery, and that includes fitness and that includes performance and that includes sports and that includes, you know, all kinds of things. Whereas mine, I wanted to work with people who were interested in a path similar to yours and mine, people who wanted to be the product of their business and they were going to build a career or a business around what they were good at doing that was worth paying to get right. So I decide that I defined my market as professional experts. What is that? A professional expert is a coach, a consultant, a speaker, an author, a podcaster, an advisor, a specialist who sells their expertise as their primary product instead of selling microphones or something else that they might sell. So that was, that was it for me. What's the difference between a mentor and a coach? I don't hold the people accountable. I serve as an advisor, a guide, best friend on tap, a virtual vice president if their company retains me, right? So they can reach out to me anytime. And the difference is I refer them to someone like yourself when they want someone that's going to do the follow through and get into the details. So that's cool. I've got an alliance of people like, like Beth that make makes the package complete. Speaker B 10:00 That's great. That's really collaborative. You know, I seek you out as a mentor for me, but I feel like you hold me accountable anyway. Jim Cathcart 10:09 Yeah, well, I do. It's just that I don't structure it. I'd like for folks to know the path you followed to get into this and not a full biography, but just, you know, I spent X years doing this, I did that, I did that. These were the imprints that gave me the skill set, the mindset, and the awareness to do what I'm doing today. Could you walk us down that journey? Speaker B 10:36 Absolutely. I was born at a very young age. Jim Cathcart 10:39 Were you? Speaker B 10:42 I had a dream in my heart. You know when people ask you when you're a kid, what do you want to be when you grow up? I wanted to be a professional singer, dancer, actress, and I wanted to be an Olympic ice skater. Turns out I had skills in one, not the other. And I was blessed with a family that supported that. And I was singing professionally by the time I was 13 and studying with vocal coach and everything, and went on. And I achieved what I wanted to achieve, and with great success. I got married young and therefore started a family young. And I remember I was singing at the Lyric Opera of Chicago, and spotlight's on me, no problem. I'm singing away and I'm pregnant, but I haven't told the producer. And my son starts to move around. Well, I've never felt that before. And I was certain all the people in the audience saw that. And I was like, there was a moment. I know, I know. My eyes went, and I'm in the middle of sending the clowns, and there ought to be clowns, and there's one in my stomach and what's going on? And freaking out. So I decided, okay, that's it. We're done here. And it really wasn't a mom job to. To be in showbiz. And you midnight, and your adrenaline is up here, and then you're, like, gonna crawl in bed, and now baby wants to get up at 5. And so anyway, I kind of put that up on a shelf with high school and college yearbooks and. And really threw myself into being the most supportive wife and mother that I could be. And that was great. But I started getting into the people, police, disease, the mayor of martyrdom. I'll do it. I'll do it. And I was the cook, the chauffeur, and the champion for everyone's dreams. My husband's dream, my kids dreams, my best friend's dreams. Everyone but me. Jim Cathcart 12:28 Yes. Resting your own dreams. Speaker B 12:30 Well, a couple of decades of that, I started to lose me. I lost the essence of who I was because I was facing a time when I could feel a looming divorce on the horizon. My kids were about to leave the nest, my yellow labs barking his last bark. So I'm like, wow, the whole wife, mother thing isn't who I am really anymore. I mean, I'll always be a mom, but not the kind that you were. And I was in a deep depression. And I just remember just some dark days where I didn't see the blue skies. I didn't feel the air. I wasn't a part of life. I wasn't living. And I had to stop and push the pause button and say, wow, this is not you. I don't know how you let miserable become your normal. But I decided in that moment, and I think it was in my late 40s, that I'm going to start designing a life for me. Doing things that I love, trying things I've never tried that. That was a year of me jumping out of planes, jumping off perfectly nice mountains, doing crazy things. I became certified as a rafting guide. I just did. Started doing big things because I felt like I wasted. It wasn't wasting, but I just felt like time went on without the real me. And I knew I wasn't going to go back to singer, dancer, actress mode. So I had to find what it was. And. And I still had my personal training gym. That was my side hustle and it was sustaining me and it was, it was keeping me sharp. I loved coaching. I love the aha moments when people figured out an exercise or they lost the weight or whatever that was. That gave me life. I was just, oh my God, this is what I want to do. And that was the years that I started googling around about life coach. Maybe I could do this because I felt like a glorified therapist. When you personal trainer, you're like a hairdresser, you know people, you come into the gym, it's just the two of us. And I get to hear everything that happened over the weekend. It's like, oh my gosh, like a Jim Cathcart 14:34 bartender on a slow night, you know, you're a counselor. Speaker B 14:40 It was just coming for me and. And I kept shoving it down. I kept shoving that dream down. And the analogy is kind of like it's a beach ball or a cork. You can hold it down for so long, but it keeps coming back up. And for me, that beach ball was coming up faster and more, more aggressively. And, you know, I moved to California, which was a dream, by the way. Jim Cathcart 15:03 That was very gutsy. Moving to California to just pull up routes and go to California. Speaker B 15:10 I don't know. Visceral reaction to San Diego. When I was a little girl and I. It was kind of a joke in our family that that's where I was going to end up. Jim Cathcart 15:18 By the way, me too. In 1956, we drove Route 66 across country to visit Disneyland, which was brand new, one year old. And went with my uncle and my cousins to Disneyland, which was life changing, and Knott's Berry Farm and a few other things, but spent time in San Diego and I always thought, you know, this is paradise. I would someday I want to live here. And I still consider it the best place. Speaker B 15:47 Oh, absolutely. And it's funny, that trip when I was nine, when I first saw the Pacific Ocean, the next, the next day we went to Disneyland. Jim Cathcart 15:56 Same, same age, different year, different era. Yeah. Wow. Speaker B 16:00 Yeah. Yeah. So that Was my dream was to. To come out here, and I don't know what I thought I was going to do. I thought I'd retire. I was. Got into the pickleball world, and that was. That was my life. And. And then there was a moment after Covid and I went back to training online. And then. Yeah, it was just. I don't know, the stars align. I remember seeing something, and I think it was in Facebook, about taking a life coach challenge for five days. And I was in Las Vegas at the time, helping my best friend. She does PR for retired athletes who have causes, and, well, she gets them gazillion interviews through the week before super bowl. And I kind of wrangle them around and make sure they get where they're supposed to be on time. Yes, it's a great, fun side thing, but it's a long day. And then I would go back to my hotel and. And I'd take this challenge because I missed it during the day. So I'd have to rewatch all the videos, do the homework, and every day I'd show up for my super bowl gig just five feet taller, you know, just like, whoa, this is life giving. This is making me feel expansive. And by the end of the summit, they're, of course, they're like, so if you think this is for you, you know, for a call. And I was like, is this poor girl. She's, like, telling me about the certification. And I'd already decided, and she had to go through her spiel. I'm like, you know what? I have a really busy day. Where do I sign? How much is it? Yeah, what's the investment I'm in buy now button. Jim Cathcart 17:34 Yeah, Speaker B 17:36 well, I'm here. I'm your best client, so jump in. Day one, it was like, this aligns with me. It's Mary Morrissey and the brave thinking. Yeah, I just was like, this. This is. This is where I'm supposed to be. This felt like home from day one. And all the things that I kind of did through my on my own, the books I read, the summits and the webinars and all of that, and just me, trial and error getting it took me 12 years to get to that point. And she codified it and made it make sense, and. And it's like, oh, my gosh, I would have known you 12 years ago. I would have been a life mastery consultant 10 years ago. Jim Cathcart 18:19 By the way, you know Michael Graham from Village. He's a former SWAT officer from Santa Monica Police Department, and he's also an Actor and has been in a number of movies, one of which is Once Upon a Time in Hollywood. Speaker B 18:37 Okay. Jim Cathcart 18:37 Yeah. He's a cpe He's a dear friend. He lives in Westlake Village. And he went through Mary Morrissey's training as well just recently. And I used to live at Sherwood Country Club in, in Thousand Oaks, California. And one day Mary came to Sherwood and had lunch with me there at the country club. Speaker B 18:59 Gosh. Jim Cathcart 19:01 I've known her at arm's length for quite a while, but I respect and admire her work. Speaker B 19:06 She's amazing. I have two opportunities this year with a lot of one on one time traveling. I'm going to be traveling to Boston to kind of the Mecca with Ralph Walder Emerson and on all the studies that she got from him and we get to and be there with her hand in hand. So I'm super excited about that. But that going through this course, it just aligned so deeply with me that this is exactly how I want to coach other people. And I, you know, every time there's another level I can go, I'm the first one. Yes. Jim Cathcart 19:40 Let's skip forward on your path to what's your day to day practice now? What, what are you doing? Say in a typical month, what kind of things fill your, your business now? Speaker B 19:54 Right now. So I also have the pleasure of working with Les Brown and the mindset that he taught me is practice every day. Practice nor speaking, not, you know, get, get on podcasts, get, get out in front of people and share your message because it's a powerful message. And so every day I practice something, whether it's 20 minutes, 30 minutes, an hour, whatever I have time for, I am researching all the time. And because I'm coaching, I re. Go through the material prior to meeting with my clients each day. I'll watch the videos, I'll go through the lessons, and every time it inspires a new idea, a new thought for me. And I'm always writing. So I also have time in the day where I'm trying to write another chapter, something that inspires me. But that inspiration has to come with the practice of how I start my day and that I don't use an alarm clock anymore. I wake up and it's gratitude time. It's going through all the things I'm grateful for. Jim Cathcart 20:59 Perfect way to start a day. Speaker B 21:03 A funny story is there was a day where I was doing three zoom interviews in a row and my Internet went down and it came on minutes before the first one and I thought, oh my gosh, I forgot to Be grateful for the Internet. Spiritual things that I'm grateful for. And I go. And the Internet. Jim Cathcart 21:25 I consider gratitude to be spiritual magnetism. Speaker B 21:30 Absolutely. Jim Cathcart 21:31 Because I've observed, like you have, obviously, that when you're grateful, you tend to attract more of what you're grateful for. And when you're generically grateful there, you tend to notice more opportunity. You know, they say they're. They're optimist and pessimist. And then there's a group of people said, I'm neither. I'm a realist. Those are the pessimists that won't admit it because they always look at the limits. The realists and the pessimist, but the optimist, like you and me, we look at the same reality, and we don't deny the reality. We say, okay. And somewhere, somehow, there's a way may not be worth it. You know, I might choose to say, nope, not that one. But somewhere, somehow, there's a way to. To whatever it is you're trying to accomplish. And a grateful heart will attract not only the thing you're seeking, but also other people because you're vibrating at a level that's making other people. I want more of that. Right. And at the same time, it makes you aware or conscious of. You notice more opportunity, more things to be grateful for. Speaker B 22:44 Even still, that's tool number one in brave thinking is notice what you're noticing. And you can notice your thoughts that are vibrating at a very low frequency, that they tend to be negative. Take a pause, notice that, Change the channel. Because if you want to vibrate up here, you're not going to tune into it down here. And just taking that pause, notice what you're noticing and adjust. Jim Cathcart 23:10 There's a woman here in Austin named Maura Thomas, and she's an author, but she's more than that specialist in the field that's typically known as time management. And she says, you can't manage your time, which is obvious, but you can manage what you do with your time. And that's the way most people approach it. That's not how she approached it. She says, I want to talk with you about attention management. Because what you pay attention to is what consumes your time. And if you can manage what you're noticing, as you would put it, you know, then managing the noticing allows you to focus your attention where you want it to be. Speaker B 23:52 Where attention goes, energy flows. Jim Cathcart 23:55 Yep, that's good. I love, love, rhymes like that, you know. Muhammad Ali built a career off of two things. His boxing skill and discipline. And his ability to rhyme things so that everybody'd always remember. Float like butterfly, sting like a bee. Speaker B 24:15 That's right. Jim Cathcart 24:15 Yep. So what's next for you? What's on your horizon? Speaker B 24:21 Horizon is this is a year of expansion for me. So I am coaching, I am speaking and I'm writing. So I'm doing all three because I feel like they interweave each other. Jim Cathcart 24:34 They're all self expression. Speaker B 24:35 Exactly. And I plan to reach 10,000 souls in whatever way that is. And. And If I reach 10,000 souls by July 1, then it's going to be a million souls. I want to play big this year and just expand my brand as a coach, an author and a speaker. Jim Cathcart 24:55 How do you, how do you present yourself brand wise? What, what, what's your phrase or statement or symbol or whatever? Speaker B 25:04 There's a few. My, you know, there's a catchphrase. There's far more power within you than any situation and circumstance or condition that you find yourself in. And I borrow that from the beautiful Mary Morrissey. But there's so much truth in that that we beat ourselves down and with our self limiting beliefs about ourselves that aren't necessarily the truth. They're just thoughts that you kept thinking long enough that they became your beliefs. They're, well, wrong. Warm grooves in your brain. And when you can notice what you're noticing and notice that you're feeling that about yourself, that's the pause and change the channel. And if I can achieve where I have achieved at my age, anyone can and just have to believe. I have these bands I give out says I Believe on one. And my signature is Carpe Diem. And that's since freshman year of Latin school where I first learned. Jim Cathcart 26:01 Yep. Speaker B 26:01 And really, you know, it's not just a phrase for me. It's. It's a way of life. It's every morning you wake up with a choice and a chance to make a difference in your life and to choose love. As always, the answer. And that's part. I just wrote a book that it's launching a week from Friday, so March 14th. Jim Cathcart 26:22 What's the time? Speaker B 26:23 Title is make youe Life A Beautiful Story. Life Lessons I Learned from My Mother. And the title came from a title, a signature talk that I gave. And all of that came from Les Brown in a conversation in a parking lot where he said, this is the title of your story. This is the title of your book. Jim Cathcart 26:41 I love that. Speaker B 26:43 And it was, it was very profound. And he gave me a very short window to write this speech, record it and give it to him. And it was over fourth of July weekend, and I canceled everything. And I spent the weekend with the spirit of my mother and really dug deep on some beautiful memories that I had that applied to the lessons that I give when I coach and when I speak. And. And I never realized how deeply they affected me until I spent the time to dig them out. And Les just kept saying, just go with it. And stories are going to pour out of you and. And some are going to be funny, some are going to be sad, but they're all things that all people can relate to in their. Jim Cathcart 27:26 Make your life a beautiful story. Yeah, that's. That's a great sentiment. And I love also that, you know, when you wake up, you've got a choice and a chance, and that's. That's very catchy and memorable. And it. It also, when I think of it, it makes me think upon awakening, I've. I can mold this, you know, Here it is. Sun's up. My body seems to be working. My mind appears to be functioning, too. What could I do with this day to make it really worth having passed through this day, live this day. Years ago, I had a guy come to me for two days of coaching. And it was really almost like clinical therapy coaching. His name was Tom Vacola. And Tom came to my home in California at the time, and he said, just you and me for these two days. I want you to tell me every story you can remember. He said, starting at birth, or if you go earlier than that, give me that one, too. And I said, well, I saw light at the end of the day. He said, no, no, no, no, no. Give me something I can relate to. So anyway, we started talking about my life, and he started filling out flip chart pages and wallpapered two rooms with them by the end of the two days. And then he went back and he circled the turning points and milestones over those two days, the imprint, and then summarize those. And then at the end of it, I'm going to grab something here. He presented me something that I've carried with me ever since. This is my travel backpack, my new briefcase. He gave me this little card. He said, jim, what's. What's the purpose of your life? And I said, the word that comes to mind is fulfillment. He said, what do you mean by that? And I said, I believe the reason I exist is. Is to allow the fulfillment of life through me to be a portal for life to emerge. And he said, let's put that in context, you know, so. Because seed is also A portal for life to emerge. So is a puppy. So as a tree. So, you know, you can go on all day long. So what's the deal with you? And I said, well, years ago, I heard Mike Vance tell a story about the early days of his work with Walt Disney in Disneyland. He said Mike was the president of Disney University, the first one, the creator of it. And he and Walt were in Disneyland one morning and there was a gentle rain falling. And Mike had been standing under an awning as he saw Walt drive up. And Walt got out in the rain and said, mike, it's raining. They're in Disneyland now. It's before it's opened, right? It's early at the park and nobody's there but the two of them. And Mike said, yeah, it is. Come on, you know. And he was motioning him to get under the awning. And Walt said, no, come on, Mike, let's walk in the rain. He said, rain, something you get out into. So they walk along through Disneyland getting totally soaked and completely oblivious to it. And they're walking along Main street and they stop to stop in front of a store, one of those storefronts that's got the window that has like 12 or 15 panes to it, you know, old timey storefront window. And they're looking at the rain streak down the window. And Walt says to Mike, remember when you were a little kid sitting inside a window like that and looking out at the rain? Mike said, yeah. He said, do you remember what you were thinking about? And Mike said, yeah, I was thinking about what I would be and do when I grew up. And he said, you know what's nice, Mike? Now this is Walt Disney talking. Then Walt Disney. Beth says to Mike, mike, you know what's nice is to be grown ups like we are. To remember the kid we were back then and to know that we have become the person that he or she dreamed we would be. Speaker B 31:51 That's rich. Jim Cathcart 31:53 And Mike said, wow. And Walt said, that's important. You know what it's called? No. It's called fulfillment. And it's something every human being seeks to achieve. Mike, I hope you always have the kind of thinking that'll cause you to be the sort of person that as a child you hoped and dreamed someday you might become. Isn't that a beautiful story? Speaker B 32:21 Powerful. Wow. Jim Cathcart 32:25 So there's my purpose statement, Helmet of life through me, through intelligent observation, vocal appreciation, being grateful and full self expression, mental, physical, family, social, spiritual, career, financial, emotional, I inspire myself and others to live more courageously, more intelligently and more joyfully so that we will have life and have it more abundantly. There you go. Speaker B 32:56 Wow. That's such a gift that you gave yourself to pull all of that out and to make it succinct and, and unique for you, to have that written up and carry with you. That's. That's a gift. And that's so powerful, what you said about fulfillment, because I, you know, in my coaching business, that's. That's where people are stuck there. They know there's more for them. And, you know, I try to take them back to the dreams you had as a child. And, and until social media or your parents or your friends told you you couldn't do it, you dreamt with your heart. Jim Cathcart 33:30 Yeah. Speaker B 33:31 Along the way, you got derailed into Jim Cathcart 33:35 getting back that one more Disney quote. A dream is a wish your heart makes when you're fast asleep. Right. Yeah. You can use that. There you go. That's. That's public domain, but you gotta cite your source. Speaker B 33:54 I'm gonna cite Disney and Jim Cathcart. Jim Cathcart 33:57 Give it to Disney. Thank you. Speaker B 34:01 My gosh. Every Sunday night we sat and watched the Wonderful World of Disney. I used to sing that song, the Jim Cathcart 34:06 Wonderful World of Color, you know, and then the. The peacock would. Speaker B 34:10 Yes. Jim Cathcart 34:12 Man, that was. That was a powerful, powerful part of my childhood. Imprinting. Speaker B 34:18 Yes. Absolutely. Jim Cathcart 34:19 Yeah. Speaker B 34:20 We used to take our kids every other year to Disney World because we were in Chicago. That was closer and bigger part. There's more to do. And he used to say that he wanted to grow up and work at Disney or he wanted to, I don't know, something like that. And. And my husband said, well, what are you going to do for money? And he said, well, I'll just go to the machine like you do, and then you buttons, and then it. I'll be fine. Jim Cathcart 34:43 Very good. Speaker B 34:45 Yeah. Jim Cathcart 34:46 What do you do for money? Get it out of the wall. Yeah. Speaker B 34:49 You know, and I still think he would love to be working at Disney. Jim Cathcart 34:53 So my son is 54 years old in a couple of weeks, and he's in the hospitality business. But when he was a little kid, we took him to Disneyland and we lived in Southern California, so it wasn't that difficult to get to it. And he went there a couple of times during, like, high school, had their graduation night where all the kids pile on the bus and go to Disneyland. After he got married and had kids, he bought annual passes, which is no small investment, and took his two kids and his wife to Disneyland like six times, ten times a year so he could Tell you Disneyland stories that are down to the granular DNA level observations because he's had so many experiences with it. But what's in common between the three of us, you, me and him, is that all of us were inspired by the visions that came through one man, Walt Disney. There were visions of wholesomeness and hope and joy and generosity and facing your fears and challenges and, you know, the hero's journey story. Speaker B 36:09 Wow. Jim Cathcart 36:10 One more quick story. I was president of the national speakers Association in 1988 and 89, and one of our guest presenters at the annual convention in front of 2000 plus professional speakers and authors was the famous Art Link Letter, who was famous television, but also in many other modes. He had a. When I was a little kid, he had a TV show called People are Funny, and we used to watch it all the time in Little Rock when I was growing up. Me and my. My parents and my little sister. Then he had House Party and he had kids say the darndest things, which really. Speaker B 36:52 Yeah. Jim Cathcart 36:53 And that, that came from the interviews he did on the show House Party during the day. Well, anyway, Walt, our link letter, was the speaker. So here was a fellow professional speaker, and he was on the program, and I'm, you know, one of the players in the game. So we're backstage between presentations, and he was talking to a small gathering of US 4 or 5, and he said, I used to take vacations with Walt Disney. And we all just went. He said, one time in the 50s, 1950s, we were in Tivoli Gardens in Copenhagen, and we're walking around this beautiful place, and I noticed Walt Disney was taking notes. And I said, well, what are you doing? He said, look at the, the twinkle lights in the trees. He said, yeah, they're beautiful. He said, no, none of them are burned out. And look at the benches. Yeah, they're nice benches. No, freshly painted. And the bathrooms are clean. And link letter said, why are you writing this down? He said, because, Art, someday I'm going to build a place like this for families. Speaker B 38:05 Whoa. Jim Cathcart 38:06 A dream is a wish your heart makes, and every day you have a chance and a choice. Wow. Speaker B 38:16 Wow. Jim Cathcart 38:17 It said, I'm now a prospect for you. So I'm, you know, I've encountered you at a conference or met you somewhere or I heard you on this podcast, and I say, hey, I want more. I. I just, you know, my vibe and yours are compatible to help me grow. I want my life to be more complete, and I think you can help. Tell me about Beth Robbins as the source for making my Dreams come true. Speaker B 38:47 Oh, well, you are making the dreams come true because you are the supreme authority on you. My job is to help you facilitate that. Jim Cathcart 38:55 Exactly. Speaker B 38:57 So coaching wise, I have many programs that I can offer and you know, I go 12 weeks to VIP and everything in the middle, what, what works is where are you? And we really get, you know, we have a separate conversation outside of the conference or wherever we're meeting. We really dig into the weeds about really beginning to dig deep and blueprint the life that you really love. And we have a wonderful thing that we do called time machine. And you spin around left and you come around and it's three years from today and you run into me at the grocery store and you say, oh my gosh, Beth, you would not believe what's happened in the three years past. And you speak in the present tense and you start with, I'm so happy and grateful now that I built that dream house in Colorado and it's got a first floor with. And you go into detail on all the four quadrants of your life. Your health and well being, your. Your time and money, freedom, your vocation, what you do with your day and your love and relationships. And you go into great, massive detail describing to me more life. And that's the dream and it's up here. And we identify where frequency wise. We don't talk about the how. All we've established is what would you love in your life? Jim Cathcart 40:23 Yeah. Speaker B 40:24 What I do is give you the tools, the bridges to get through your fear paradigms and all the reasons that have kept you vibration, that's kept you stuck. And we build and we build and we build until now you're on this frequency of your dream. Wow, that was amazing. I got all these other dreams that came up and we. The system that Mary's put together, it's proven, it's reliable and it's repeatable. And that's what's so beautiful, is that we can be partners in crime for the rest of your life. But the point is that you get the tools and you take you. You're the component that, that is, it's you. You have a unique blueprint. You're, you know, you, it's like your thumbprint and ideas and dreams come to you. They're not coming to me channeling into you, they're not coming to the next door neighbor or your wife. They're unique to you. And me stepping out of the way and realizing you are the supreme authority of that content. We just build and build and build. Jim Cathcart 41:27 And then starting point with you is that what other people would call a discovery conversation. But it's, but it's where you want to give this person a safe place to communicate what some would call a fantasy. But you're probing to get a real genuine felt dream picture of a future reality that could be. And then using my terminology, you're, you're guiding them back to a pathway that has a number of steps along the way so that, that life can fulfill itself through them. So they become a portal for that. And by the way, the dream is the indicator, the cosmic indicator, divine indicator that they are the portal. You know, the Emerson said, and it's interesting you talked about going to explore the Emerson roots. He said, desire is possibility seeking expression. And I first heard that in the Wallace Wattles Science of Getting Rich book. But desire is possibility, seeking to become real, seeking to be expressed. So if, if you have a desire, that means the possibility's in you. Speaker B 42:54 Exactly. Jim Cathcart 42:55 Oh, no, I'm, I couldn't, you know, yeah, I want that, but I'm not. No, no, you just told me by expressing that dream, the chosen one for Speaker B 43:08 that dream, the chosen one, and the law of attraction is you have that desire, you cast that desire out, you have to have the same intensity as the expectation of winning, that of achieving that. And it focused intention of the desire and expecting and you in between, live as that person who has already achieved it. Jim Cathcart 43:30 Exactly. Earl Nightingale was my primary mentor and I spent thousands of hours listening to Earl. I also had a chance to meet him and I had a chance to be the, the only outside speaker at his memorial service with his widow, which was a life altering moment for me. I mean that was huge. And I still don't feel I was worthy, but I certainly grateful. But Earl Nightingale, his message boiled down to, you know, he, he expressed it as you become what you think about the strangest secret. I articulate it differently and this is my version of his message. Become the person who would achieve the goals. Become the person who would achieve the goals you want to achieve. And the goals are your natural byproduct. So develop the qualities to be an eligible receiver. Get downfield and in the open so that they can throw you the ball, you know, have some skills so that you know what to do with it once you've caught it and work on you to be a worthy vehicle for vessel or doorway or whatever you want to call it. And, and it becomes real through you. Speaker B 44:45 Absolutely, yeah. It's, it's all the same. And you know, in my elevate coaching, we Study Wallace Wattles and, and Emerson and all of that. It's all part of the same thing, you know, and articulate it in different ways. But the message is, it's, it's rich. It's become expect, Expect the win and become the person. Jim Cathcart 45:06 That's a key word. Expect to win. Now people say, oh, so I, I say, okay, I, I think I can, no, no, start knowing that you can. Maybe you can't do whatever it is exceptionally well yet, but you could do the first step of it and soon the second, third and 17th steps of it, and then you'd get good at it. And you go through what I call the experts progression. The experts progress. Progression is from competent, just able to be in the game to excellent, able to sit at the big kids table with the real players and not feel out of place expert, which means the others look to you occasionally, say, what do you think? Right. Leading authority. So they're quoting you celebrity, so that they're not only quoting you, but everybody knows your name or star. You know, choose your level of aspiration and then start acquiring the qualities that allow you to rise to that level. In my family, there's an agent statement. This is on my guitar strap. It's, it's a badge that says, I don't think you can see it, but it says, I hope to speed. I hope to speed is the Cathart family motto from like the 1500s or something. Now if you think about this, it's an ancient Scottish statement. I hope to speed. What did speed mean back before automobiles, did it mean go fast on a horse? No, it meant to prosper. So if you look up ancient, you know the archaic definition of the word speed? It was to prosper. All right? Now they've got a second word, hope. Well, most people think, boy, I hope we don't get stuck in traffic. I hope we can afford it, you know, I hope. No, that's hoping against. Hoping for is expressing expectation. There's hope. Look, there's a light up ahead. There's hope. We're going to be saved. Look, there's an opening in traffic. We can get through. So hope is expecting. Now if you expect something good's going to happen, what feeling goes with the hope? Gratitude. Which takes us right bird, back to where you started. Speaker B 47:38 Yeah. Jim Cathcart 47:38 In this conversation. So if you expect to succeed, feel the gratitude. Allow it, say, okay, I don't see the path. This is right for me. The dream is clear. I'm going to make it happen somehow, man. I'm grateful for that and all of A sudden obstacles become more easy to get past and new realities show up. And life is beautiful. Speaker B 48:06 Wayne Dyer just came to mind. I'll see it when I believe it. Jim Cathcart 48:09 That's right. I'll see it after I. I have cultivated the belief not I'll believe it when I see it. Which is the skeptics point of view. Yeah. Speaker B 48:24 Yeah. Jim Cathcart 48:24 That's beautiful. Well, you're making life bigger and better for other people every day. I can tell it just from the nature of this dialogue. Speaker B 48:33 Thank you. I've waited so long that I am. I'm just. I just want to explode. I always say I have so much love in me to give, and if I could coach the world for free, I would. I just saw so much potential. And it's funny, now that I've gone through my journey and gone through the coaching and how deeply I'm embedded in it, I see people differently. You know, I look in every person's eyes and I see that spiritual being. I don't see anything else than the soul. The soul connection. And I think there's been parts of me, in parts of my life where I've felt that, where I've had feelings, where I've met somebody and had that deja vu, like we've met somewhere before. There's some connection. Jim Cathcart 49:22 Yeah. Speaker B 49:22 And then I would put it aside and now I'm like, Nero, come to mama. Jim Cathcart 49:28 Yeah. Speaker B 49:30 Oh, wow. Jim Cathcart 49:31 That's beautiful. Beautiful. Well, how do people reach you? What's the easiest way to get in touch with you? Speaker B 49:38 I have a great website. It's balanced lifeproductions.com. and so it's B, A L A N C E D Life Jim Cathcart 49:48 Productions dot com. That's beautiful. Beautiful. Well, I look forward to seeing you in Santa Barbara soon, Summit. Yes. Speaker B 50:00 I cannot wait to meet you, actually. Face the face. Jim Cathcart 50:03 Tremendous. Well, thank you for stepping up and becoming a certified professional expert. You definitely fit the family, the vibe. You've got the DNA. Marvelous. Well, thank you, Beth. Folks, you've been getting to know Beth Robbins, and I suggest you keep building on that. Get to know her well balanced.life productions.com. write it down now so you don't forget it and then go check it out. When I was first introduced to Beth, I told her a little bit about the professional expert summit. She said, I'm in. She hit that buy now button in her head, like in the first minute or two, and she. It's clear. When she knows something is right, she takes action on it. And if you feel like you've got that vibe with Beth take action on it. This is somebody you want to know. Even if you don't do business together, connect so the communication can flow. Because more life is looking to be expressed through each of us. Let's let it happen. Thank you for joining us today. If you are committed to making more success happen in your own life, go right now to my website, free.cathcart.com and download my free ebook and then watch the video. If you decide that you'd like my assistance in helping grow your success, then come with me and let's discover how much more success successful you can be.